Men are, by nature, hunters. More often than not they prefer to have a woman who is not at their beck and call each and every moment of the day. You want to create an bit of mystery in the relationship to engage in his own desire to pursue you. This in turn directs him to feel the urge to advance toward you with the creation of mounting tension. This certain time period in the relationship is considered the chase. However, realistically speaking you can certainly accomplish this at any point in a relationship in order to make you more mysterious, which of course elevates his interest in you. Even in the midst of your hectic everyday life you can create interest. It might take a bit of effort, but giving him the challenge will keep your relationship fresh.
Did you know that there is a way to pull back from the relationship just enough without causing a stir that you are leaving altogether? The idea is to give him the impression of a slight emotional distance that is free of anger, frustration and irritation on your part. Don’t make him think that you are pulling away because you’re angry, instead, do it in a manner that peaks his interest in your behavior. When you aren’t immediately available, he then understands that he must work a little harder to gain your attention.
It is important to be fully present and in the moment with your guy. Take your mind off of work, the kids, your latest argument with your best friend or how messy your home is. Put all of your focus on the man you love, but without taking charge of the conversation or decision-making.
Remember to not answer every call or text within seconds. Part of your surrounding mystery is that you have a life outside of your man. And it’s okay have a life outside of your guy! This shouldn’t be a made-up excuse, but it should be a part of your everyday living. Make plans with your friends, go to the movies by yourself, see an art exhibit or go to a play. In other words, keep living!
Your man will in turn intuitively understand that you are living your life without him and he will yearn to be a part of it. He will begin to pursue you with a keen interest in becoming part of your daily activities, but this can not occur until you start directing him there!
Be sure to be confident without appearing or acting haughty, be engaging without being needy and remember to step back without actually giving him any inclination you are leaving him.